A good way to know your bias is to note who you have expectations from. Who are you talking to and who are you telling to change? In a domestic violence kind of situation, do you ask the abuser to change? Or do you ask the victim to change? In a political protest by citizens do you ask the government to change, or do you ask the citizens to adjust with the government's policies?
In any conflict, do you stand with the weaker party and ask the stronger party questions? Or do you remain silent before the strong and hold expectations from the weak?
Because the "adjustment" you keep asking for doesn't stem from your desire to strike balance. It stems from your desire to avoid doing anything. It's a love for the status quo masquerading as a desire to mediate.
You don't want peace. You want quiet. They're two different things.